Three Minute Solution—Oops, we forgot!

 

Now what do you do when you forget or were so harassed with getting the kids out the door and to the bus on time because everyone overslept?

The kids rush to the bus.

You and your spouse dash for the highway to get to work…

Hectic Highways

We have a little option for you if you missed your three minutes in the morning. You have a chance to prepare on your way home which heightens your chances of being greeted joyfully.

The Three Minute Oops!

  • Take some quiet—Take one moment to quiet down even when you park the car in the driveway before you run right into the house, just take one moment to quiet so you have your own relational circuits on and you don’t arrive home flustered and trying to check all the last minute emails and phone messages. One minute of quiet for yourself.
  • Think about your day—Think  about something you have appreciated throughout the day that will bring you some appreciation. It is also something you might be able to share with your partner, but now that you are quiet, you want to be in that same sense of appreciation when you walk in the door.
  • Have a moment where God will bless you and talk with you about your family. Ask Jesus, “What is it you want me to be aware of with my family so that I arrive home with God at my side?”

These three things are basically what you would have given as gifts in the morning but having forgotten them or run out of time, this is a way to prepare yourself and it is not a bad thing to do even if you did have the blessing, appreciation and quiet in the morning.

It still helps you be in the mood and ready for coming home to be a relational experience. So those are the things that are a good way to set up your day in order to heighten the amount of joy you are going to have at home; both when you leave and when you come home.

As simple as this seems, this exercise grows joy and sets your brain up to be thinking joy filled thoughts about your spouse and family so there is a sense of anticipation as you approach your driveway at night.

Share with us here whether you did your three minutes in the morning or as you came home at night. What worked or didn’t work for you?

Blessings, Carol Brown B.A. M.A.C.I.                                     Author of The Mystery of Spiritual Sensitivity and Highly Sensitive                                                                                       www.fromgodsheart.com http://connectwithcarolbrown.blogspot.com

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This post was based on a talk by Dr. Jim Wilder for Pastor’s Weekly

3 Minute Solution… so you can come home to a smile each night

Is joy important? Or, do you really understand what it is?

We have found in working with leaders and pastors that it is often undervalued and misunderstood. We, in general, don’t seem to understand what is so big about it.

You know at some level that joy is important. You read about it in Scripture but when you sit down and talk to people about joy it is like, “Well, why do I really need joy? I have integrity; I am a hard worker. I love God…where does joy fit into the whole picture of becoming the people God created us to be?”

Dismiss—You tend to dismiss your need for joy when you don’t understand it or why it is something you should be propagating to your families and the people you serve. You often forget how good joy feels until you experience a good joyful experience.

Joy  makes life meaningful and the hard times manageable.

Distract—You tend to distract from your need for joy which is not helpful. When you are not growing authentic, genuine joy you tend to find substitutes — there are artificial substitutes that raise dopamine levels in the body, otherwise known as BEEPS such as:

  • Substitute by working hard and keeping myself numb. Live to work and work to live. You are not getting the good relational joy you need.
  • Or you might turn to substances: food, coffee, alcohol or drugs
  • Or to people or activities like sports or gambling,

When your joy levels drop, expect problems. Low joy levels are most often the cause of most of the train wrecks in leadership for pastors or leaders. The way that it turns into a train wreck is in the form of burn out or some kind of depression on the pastor’s side.

In that weakened condition he/she begins to find joy in some place other than home and that is really where the danger starts. When somebody brings you more joy than your ministry, more joy than your home, more joy than your spouse, more joy than your children…

that’s when people begin to do things they would never have believed they would do.

When you run out of fuel the plane goes down and when the plane goes down too soon, that’s not good!

Low joy is not good for leaders, nor for marriages.

Solution—Increase joy at home: The Three Minute Solution so you can come home to a smile each night!

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The differences between how men and women communicate in preparation for the day…

  • Women tend to want to have relational moments where they can connect
  • Men tend to think about tasks and what needs to be done

We think our 3-minute solution helps both men and women regardless of whether you are a man or a woman who is a pastor—whichever way you are leaving the home we still want you to consider these three options together.

1. One minute of appreciation. (This is what it takes to get the relational circuits in your brain up and running.)

It is a moment of sitting down and appreciating something about your partner, your home, your life, your children—something that you share together that you can draw to people’s attention. So, it can be something as simple as appreciating breakfast or the way their hair turned out…something simple … even a view. Like looking out the window and sharing with your spouse the way the trees are blossoming in the back yard, or enjoy watching the snow fall together.

Appreciation

The point is that you are connecting in some way that creates appreciation for the people around you and talk about that and share that and bring that to your spouse’s mind. Appreciate qualities as well. You might say to someone, “These are the things I really like about you. These are the reasons I’m glad we are married. You can think of these things ahead of time and then you share them in one minute.

2. The second minute is a minute of being quiet. This is one that is surprisingly meaningful for men.

  • Men really like the fact that someone relaxes around them. It is one of the things that make men feel attractive, important and significant—just the fact that you would have a moment of quiet together.
  • Usually when men talk, especially in the morning when you are busy, they talk about the business that needs to be taken care of. So if a man is talking to his wife he is telling her “here is what I need to do or take care of during the day.”
  • If she is telling him something, he tends to read it in that same kind of way: “here is what you want me to pay attention to.”

Quiet, especially a cuddly kind of holdinghandscozy quiet kind of together moment, it is real clear that it isn’t just about doing business. It’s about spending some time together—”I’m just glad to be with you.” Let that feeling of relaxing and sharing a little coziness soak in for a minute. . .

3. The third thing is one minute of blessing. This is where you would actually pray for your partner’s day. You would ask God to be with them and/or you could remember the significant things that are coming up for them.

Summary—

  • one minute of appreciating the life you share together
  • one minute of quiet, glad to be together and rest in a cozy way
  • one minute of blessing them for their day

The chances are very good that as you leave with those three things in place, your partner will be thinking happy and joyful thoughts about you throughout the day so that when you come home, the chances that you are going to be greeted by joy and a smile and a welcome home are much, much higher.

Please leave a comment regarding how it went!

Blessings, Carol Brown, M.A.C.I

Author of The Mystery of Spiritual Sensitivity and Highly Sensitive                                                                                       www.fromgodsheart.com  http://connectwithcarolbrown.blogspot.com

P.S. Big Announcement!

At the Thrive Applications Training (Oct. 3-5) the new book, Joy Starts Here will be released! Meet the authors. The Beta Version is available NOW! Pastors and Leaders you can get your BETA VERSION here.

This post based on a talk given by Jim Wilder for Pastor’s Weekly

Problem with Godly Obedience…ain’t nobody can do that!

 532275_Moses-Breaking-The-Tablets-Of-The-LawThe Bible has a great deal to say about obedience but knowing what to do or not to do is not enough. It is one thing to know what is right. It is another thing to do what is right and yet another thing to get your heart online with what is right. As pastors you are all familiar with the problem of trying to get people to do things they really do not want to do. You may have wrestled with this personally as well. You act nice to people you would like to scream at and may have trouble forgiving someone who is making your life difficult.

There are a few commands that don’t seem to cause much trouble, a few you follow sporadically, a few you have to really force yourselves and others you ignore. There are a few things that are relatively easy to incorporate into your life if you put your mind to it. But some of God’s laws that are a little hard to follow. Look at this list:

Do not be contemptuous

Don’t lust

Turn the other cheek

Love your enemy

Bless those who curse you

Pray for those who mistreat you.

Jesus commands address the heart. He wants you to care about people who are awful to you. If you could not keep the old Testament Law there is no way you are going to be able to keep the New Testament principles…which poses a very important question: What does it mean to be obedient if you can’t really do what Jesus says to do?

Rationales: “God knows we can’t do all those things so we should just do the best we can.” But trying hard and failing is not really obedience. Why did God tell us to do these things? If He simply gave us new laws to live by, how is that any different than living under the Old Covenant?

“If we try hard God will give us the strength to do it.”  But, if that is actually true, how do you explain burnout?

Maybe we just need to repent every time we fail. Feeling really bad about not being obedient and confessing that to God still does not enable you to do what you can’t do. If you can’t do it, repenting won’t help. You still won’t be able to do it.

insidethecupYou should try hard whether you feel like it or not. For example, if you can’t forgive your family from your heart, you should at least say the words, “I forgive you.” Override your feelings and do it. That is exactly what Jesus called cleaning the outside of the cup!  Matthew 23:25  “Woe to you, teachers of the law and Pharisees; you hypocrites! You clean the outside of the cup and dish, but inside they are full of greed and self-indulgence.

All those feelings you override are the inside of the cup screaming out, “I am not on board with this—no way am I forgiving that horrible person! In an effort to be obedient, you can actually do the opposite of what Jesus said to do which is to clean the inside of the cup so that the outside would follow. But cleaning the inside of the cup is something you cannot do.

“Try it long enough and your heart will catch up.” “Fake it until you make it.” There is a problem here too. In the first place, you have not actually forgiven anyone; you are practicing an imitation of forgiveness. You might learn to imitate forgiveness really well and do it well enough to fool yourself into thinking you had actually mastered the process, but not learn forgiveness. The popular “fake it till you make it” can actually be a dangerous course of action. Again, if that worked, the Pharisees would have been really good people. So what does it mean when Jesus says, “keep my commandments?” What does it mean to be obedient?

Problem–No matter what you have been told about repentance, you cannot change your heart by an act of the will. Spiritually it is impossible because changing your heart is God job, not yours. Neurologically it is not possible because your brain is not wired that way. Iif there was a way to change the heart by an act of the will the Pharisees probably would have found it.

Understanding Obedience — Let’s look at what it meant under the old covenant and what changed when Jesus came. There is a great verse in Jeremiah that foreshadows this.

“Behold the days are coming says the Lord, when I will make a new covenant with the house of Israel. Not like the covenant I made with their fathers. This is the covenant I will make with the House of Israel, I will put my law within them and on their heart will I write it. And I shall be their God and they shall be my people.”

heartThis is one of the biggest differences between the Old Covenant law and New Covenant life. The reason for this change is because they were never able to be obedient by trying hard. Under the New Covenant, God is supposed to write these laws on our hearts.

When you approach the Christian life as if obedience to external principles is how to proceed, you are trying to live the way they did under the old covenant. The Holy Spirit is not very interested in helping you do that. His plan is to write His laws on your heart which is a polite way of saying that he is going to change you from the inside out. When God changes your heart, you live differently because of your nature, not because you read a command. Clearly this is not automatic. If it happened automatically, everyone would be perfect. Writing God’s laws on your heart is a process. As those principles are written on your heart and mind you do those things by virtue of who you are, not because of external rules.

Solution: What if when you go to forgive someone, instead of just mouthing the words, if you took some time with God and said, “How do You see that person? How do You stand that person? Why do You care about them? Why do I hold a double standard about forgiveness? I want to be forgiven but I don’t want to forgive! Help me out with this. What is going on?”

businessmanIf God could do a work on your heart and change that then you could forgive them out of a changed heart. What about people you hate? What if instead of trying to override feelings and trying to act as if you loved them, what if you asked God, “How do you love them? What would loving that person look like? Why won’t my heart go there? Show me what I need to see.”

You need to clean the inside of the cup so the outside can become clean. The problem we have with obedience is because most of us have been taught to try to do what is right without first being changed. That is why obedience to God’s laws in so many areas is so impossible. But when you learn how to participate with God in transformation then He can rewrite the way your heart works. In our efforts to do all these things God has told us we also gloss over some of the most basic commands that have to do with coming to Him for the work we need in our heart.

 commands of graceLook at these: Come to Me, Abide in Me,  Believe, Listen, Be filled, Be transformed.

The Hebrew word that is translated “obey” is actually “shama”—Listen, Listen! These are all commands to be teachable. We are to come to Jesus for  what we need. This is the obedience of faith that Paul was talking about in Romans l:5:

“Through Him we received grace and apostleship to call all the Gentiles to the obedience that comes from faith for His name’s sake.”

Instead of following principles we need to focus more on learning to follow a person. In the words of John 15 obedience does not mean “go crank out some fruit” Obedience means being connected to the vine so fruit happens. We need to learn how to engage with God for a change so that He can write these “aha”s on our hearts.

As pastors we have to be careful how we teach obedience. If we keep telling people that they need to keep cranking out all these things, try hard to do all the things God said, we are running them into the ground, driving them relentlessly. We need to learn how to engage with God for the change we need so He can write His laws on our heart and then teach that kind of obedience to our people.

Most of us havesailing been taught obedience like a row boat…it is a very direct effort and if you try hard you are supposed to get somewhere. You all know how hard that is. Whereas sailing is when you learn how to align your heart with God so that the wind can move the boat and take you places you could never get to through direct effort.

Action Step:  This week let’s ask God to see one or two difficult people the way He sees them. And let’s encourage each other by sharing what we see and the effect that has on us.

Blessings, Carol Brown, B.A., M.A.C.IAuthor of The Mystery of Spiritual Sensitivity and Highly Sensitive          www.fromgodsheart.com     http://connectwithcarolbrown.blogspot.com

P.S. David Tackle’s testimony, Author of The Truth About Lies and the Lies about Truth, David tried for about 30 years to get over hating his family. He did everything everybody told him to do—he took all the counselors suggestions about meeting with family and trying to reconcile with them. He wrote letters, made phone calls—he did everything! After 30 years of trying he still hated his family. David doesn’t think God is interested in helping us try hard. If doing your best is not obedience and God doesn’t seem to be interested in helping you try hard…where does that leave you?

bored businessmanHe finally sat down with God and said, “I am out of ideas here, I need something from You that I can’t seem to accomplish. All of the advice I am getting is not changing what I learned as a child from my own experience of how mean these people are and I still hate them!”

God gave him a little short video clip in his head. He saw his family out in about 12 ft. of water, struggling to stay afloat. Each person could grab the person next to them and shove them under and stand on their head so they could get a few breaths of air before someone else grabbed them and shoved them under so they could breathe. As he saw this little video clip it hit like a thunderbolt—they were not being mean, they were desperate! And it broke his heart. In that instant he stopped hating his family. God wrote something on his heart that he could never accomplish through his own effort.

This blog was based on a talk by David Tackle for Pastor’s Weekly.

Starting A Joy Revival In Your Marriage!

boredwithmarriageHas the luster worn off your marriage? Has the busyness of doing church and life crowded out the romance? Has the church, or the job, become “the other woman/man?” Pastor, it is hard for your spouse to have to compete with God. How can he/she be mad at God for drawing away your affections? It’s futility. So today I am hoping you can take away some practical things to do in your marriage to keep the love and joy going. Joy is something that grows. The fun thing for couples is that the couple bonds amplifies joy. That means a little bit of joy can quickly turn into a lot of joy. Couple bondssparkle that we share are very intense.

Marriage bonds are where two share joy for life. The problem with being married is that it brings up all of your junk—all your baggage! (And it could be embarrassing.) Within marriage joy is grown and amplified in ways you never imagined but negative emotions are amplified as well as positive ones. The goal is not to avoid negative emotions; the goal is to learn how to return to joy from them.

Struggling couples will say, “I am losing my love.” “I don’t know that I love him/her anymore.” What that means is that there is no joy. They are no longer glad to be together. They are no longer the sparkle in each other’s eyes. When joy levels drop it is not fun; it is not life giving for either partner.

You can revive or rekindle a marriage.

It iholdinghandss possible to grow your joy levels–use your relationship to increase your joy. A basic definition of joy means “somebody is glad to be with you!” You are the sparkle in your mate’s eyes. Here are some ways to rekindle the flame!

Synchronized Responses — Use your body as a canvas, your face, your tone of voice, your body language, and your touch to grow joy. The words need to match the tone and the sparkle in the eye and the face lighted up—all these things together convey joy. You want to be attuned in your responses; in other words, if “wife” is in the middle to trying to navigate two little ones and change diapers, get supper and answer the phone…and hubby tries to interrupt that with, “Dear! I am so glad to see you right now!” He would not be attuned to the situation that she is in. But when she takes a moment to catch her breath and looks his way, his face can light up and he can say, “Honey, I love you” I love who you are and the mom that you are and the wife that you are to me.” Then it can be heard and appreciated. So, you want for your responses to be attuned to what we would call a “synchronized response.”

tender responseTender Responses to Weakness—Joy levels are going to grow when you have tender responses to weakness. That means that when one of you is not at your best that you are able to respond to your mate with tenderness, sensitivity and care. Those are the kinds of moments that actually create the safety for joy to grow. Joy should not overwhelm. As long as you are attuning to your spouse with what he/she needs and he/she is attuning to you with what the both of you need, you are going to find balance and a shared “mutual mind.” Tender responses are going to be a very important factor in keeping your joy levels high. Being short and snappy to each other isn’t going to help the joy levels grow.

restingAnd rest! — One of the fun things about resting is that it gives you the strength to grow more joy. There are times at the end of the day that you are so tired you want to just sit and hold each other and catch your breath. After a little time of that, it rejuvenates you and you can grow some more joy. Trying to push through never really works. I don’t recommend trying to push though. It is not helpful.

Welcome God’s presence. — We call this the Immanuel Lifestyle; which means that you want to invite Jesus into your relationship, into these moments together. Your joy levels will increase as you are more aware that God is with you. Joy is very personal, very relational and it keeps you in a relational mode. When you are overwhelmed, anxious or upset—those things quickly knock you out of relational mode. That is not fun for anyone.

beachJoy is authentic, genuine; it is sincere. It’s not painting a smile on your face for the sake of trying to grow joy, you actually feel joy. As you are feeling the joy you are experiencing it and showing it. And you keep those levels high with your spouse by being kind, loving, careful and attentive.

Just do it! — In some ways you could say that living in the moment helps to keep the joy levels high. Words and actions need to match. The challenge is that you frequently assume that your spouse knows that you are glad to be with him/her and assume he/she knows that you love him/her. Never assume that is the case! If you have a chance to show joy and show love, take advantage of the opportunity. Don’t just let the thought bounce around in your mind—show it. If you have the thought that you want to show your spouse how glad you are to be with him/her, how glad you are at seeing him/her and being with him/her. Show that! Say it and watch her face light up in those moments when you follow through and verbalize what you feel. You might have that thought in your mind for a while, maybe days even, but don’t always follow through on those thoughts of “I should just do this. I should remind my wife how much I love her. Follow through and watch her face light up as your face lights up.

Eliminate Distractions —distraction

  • TV
  • Texting
  • Phones/Iphones
  • Computers

You may need to set the Iphone aside, turn the thing off…put it in another room if you have to so that you can spend quality time with your spouse and family and really work on keeping those joy levels up. Because the moment you set your mind to start growing joy you will be amazed at how many distractions come your way. So set aside those things as much as you are able to.

Intentional Practice — Here is a PDF of some exercises you can do to help build joy.

JoyExercises

Action Step — Ask yourselves who has your attention. Does your spouse have your attention? Your kids? Your job? The paper you are writing, the report…? Where is your focus when you are together? Look for ways to keep the joy levels high. Be intentional about practicing joy exercises.

Blessings, Carol Brown  B.A., M.A.C.I.                                                   Author of The Mystery of Spiritual Sensitivity and Highly Sensitive www.fromgodsheart.com                  http:connectwithcarolbrown.blogspot.com

Driven Ruthlessly or Growing Joy?

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It isn’t always easy being the pastor…or his/her  family. Church (God’s house), and God’s family should be a place to find joy and healing. Yet  we find lonely, hurting people putting on a smile, hiding pain, fears or doubts for fear of rejection if they to express anything other than a  victorious life and often the pastor is one of them.

Hiding my hurts from The Healer? Hiding from The Healer’s servants? There’s something wrong about that. But…

The pastor or his family best not share their weakness…what would happen? People have expectations. They look to him (them/us) as models and hold us to a standard they do not keep themselves but because Pastor and family do, they are somehow excused? “Oh, I couldn’t possibly…”  I. have. encountered. this! (In case you are wondering.) Leaders can’t share a weakness…people depend on them. Sunday School teachers can’t have a weakness…they are an example.

The problem is that we have allowed culture to spill over into the church and divide it into segments just like the society.  After WWII families sort of exploded; they left the farm and became mobile. Schools were divided according to ages/grades. Elderly are placed with elderly because they can relate…which is true, but is it best? Young moms with other young moms…who need Grandma’s wisdom and experience! Teens are not interested in relating to adults anyway. Division may be just fine with them…but is it what they need? What we have is age groups each sharing their mutual aches and pains or mutual ignorance without input from other ages, strengths or capacities!

At one time families were together all the time—they worked together, played together, did everything together. So at times adults did need a break but now there is so much division that adults and children are rarely together. How then are the skills, values, wisdom and history to be passed on? Sharing joy is both a skill and a value…how do we nurture it, grow it, pass it on, spread it?

The Solution–Grow Joy, Be Relational

 JOY grows best…when the weak and the strong are together and interacting and…when there is a tender response to weakness.

We have come full circle and need to put together what we took apart. Churches need to put little ones, big ones, old ones, new ones and not so old all together, doing and being. This way on a good day, you can be the strong one and on a bad day you can be weak but that’s okay because there is another strong one to step in and pick up the slack. For joy to flourish it needs to be okay to have weak and strong moments or areas in our lives. You want to strengthen these areas, of course, but not hide them. If they remain hidden how can they be strengthened? The old or slow ones and the strong and fast and not so strong can all help the new ones learn how to do this “Christian Stuff.” They can pass on history and values and wisdom to the “newbies.” And the strong and fast can do the heavy lifting!

Sad to say it isn’t safe for pastors and leaders assigned the role of “strong and fast” to acknowledge a weakness. I learned the hard way that no one appreciates the pastor (or his wife) having a struggle. Nobody enjoys it, and nobody wants to hear about it. Which leads to the next condition for growing joy…having a tender response to weakness.

As a young pastor’s wife I would have appreciated a tender response as I struggled with the weight of my husband’s office! The first response to weakness needs to be one of tenderness and care rather than finger pointing, sucking in the atmosphere or slamming the window down on your fingers! Whether pastor or congregant you need to be able to be real, and be included; you need to belong, to become—and everyone needs joy to become.

God Has An Opinion

In Ezekiel 34:4 God is talking to the shepherds of Israel which is basically equal to pastors today. He is addressing what they are doing wrong:

“You have not encouraged the weary, bandaged the hurt, tended the sick or covered the straggler or searched for the lost.”

What He is looking for from them is a tender response to weaknesses …encouraging the weary, tending the sick, bandaging the hurt, recovering the straggler…those are all addressing weakness with tenderness. And then, look at this next comment, “and even the strong you have driven with ruthless severity.”

Isn’t that a description of many a pastor’s life? He/she is supposed to be the strong person in the church and the needs of the church and demands of the whole ministry tend to drive the pastor with the sense of ruthless severity. You have to get all these things done one way or another.

Compare that to what God says in verse 16, from His point of view, this is how He is going to do things: “I will search for the lost, recover the straggler, bandage the hurt, strengthen the sick and leave the healthy and strong to play.

Pastor, when was the last time that you felt that you and the healthy and strong could take time to play?

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It seems to me that if this is how God is going to do it that this is what He expects from His shepherds. We should have a priority on correcting the problems of the culture not just to be  searching for the lost, recovering the straggler, bandaging the hurt and strengthening the sick …but also leave the healthy and strong to play instead of driving them ruthlessly!

That is particularly important when you think about your own staff and families and people around you. It is going to be up to pastors and leaders and Sunday School teachers to teach the people that driving the strong ruthlessly is not the biblical way, even if it does fit with the culture. Giving a tender response may be completely against the grain of our culture but it is the way of the Kingdom. It is also the way of the Kingdom to allow the strong and healthy to play! I for one really don’t want to get on the wrong side of that verse!

Dr. Jim Wilder of Shepherd’s House observed that now with 30 years experience watching pastors and leaders crash and burn—it is the ones who let their joy levels get low and do not pay attention to it who become the casualties. It would be like a pilot not keeping track of how much fuel he had on board. If you stop monitoring that you will start crashing. The fuel that our minds run on is joy. It is what keeps our relationship with God strong and what makes us stay closely connected to our spouse. All the good stuff runs on joy so let’s build it in each other and not let it run low.

When thinking about starting joy, we become creative and find ways to:

  • Have tender responses to weakness
  • Have the weak and the strong together so that when one is weak another one can be strong and back and forth. The load is shared that way, but not just so all the work gets done. This is so that you will be healthy and strong and play rather than be driven ruthlessly.
  • A complete shift in how we tend to look at work.

It is easy to drift away from this pattern  of ministry that includes play that God is trying to get us to establish. Not only for the church, but for the culture around us.

Action Step: Ask yourself and staff:

  • Are we practicing appreciation and gratitude?
  • Do we do little things to make someone’s eyes light up when we are encountering them in the work environment? From simple things like remembering what is going on in their life to bringing them their favorite coffee from time to time.
  • What changes in staff policies can we make to come closer to this goal?
  • How tired are we and how much do we feel like we are driven with ruthless severity?

If we as leaders cannot begin to practice this kind of lifestyle of looking to increase the joy and the sense of rest in people around us, we are not likely to spread it to our congregations. We have to fight this battle first and set an example of how to do that. I’d love to hear how this goes for you. This blog is adapted from a talk given by Dr. Jim Wilder for Pastors Weekly http://www.thrivetoday.org/pastorsweekly.html.

Blessings, Carol Brown B.A., M.A.C.I.

Author of The Mystery of Spiritual Sensitivity and Highly Sensitive www.fromgodsheart.com                          http://connectwithcarolbrown.blogspot.com

This blog is based on a talk by Dr. Jim Wilder for Pastor’s Weekly.